Soul Mates

Ingrid Michaelson’s song “Take Me the Way I Am,” and The Moldy Peaches’ song “Anyone Else But You” are examples of something I want to experience in a committed relationship. I want to be accepted for who I am, how I was raised, for my beliefs and my ways of life. In “Lucky” by Jason Mraz, it says, “I'm lucky I'm in love with my best friend.” Being with someone who will make you laugh, with whom you can be completely comfortable is a quality I would like to have in my committed relationship. “You Take My Troubles Away” by Rachael Yamagata & Dan Wilson is a couple sharing their struggles and their burdens with each other and caring for one another. I want to be able to help one another in our hard times but not necessarily depend on one another. “I Won’t Give Up on Us” by Jason Mraz exemplifies the characteristic of being able to grow together and become stronger. I would like to experience all of theses qualities in my future marriage. I do not believe in the quest for soul mates as described in the article. I believe that it is possible that everyone can be attracted to anyone despite one’s gender or one’s claim of sexuality. If soul mates were real, what are the chances that someone would find their soul mate out of the 7 billion people on the Earth? What if they were on the other side of the world? Then there is the possibility of them being in different generations, time periods, etc. The thought of there being one perfect match out there for everyone boggles my mind.

Changing Face of Marriage

My experience of the domestic church has been my best example of church. Both my moms have modeled to me how to be strong religious, Christian loving women. The strongest experience for me has been positive being from an unconventional family, I have learned what it mean to be tolerant and accepting of all diversity and true morality has come from making the best choices I can make out of respect and love for others. The only negative part I can think of is that this unconventional family, as a minority, is not always accepted. I believe a college degree will give my future partner or spouse and me a greater economic opportunity. With that will come more independence for both of us s well as a better ability to communicate both our needs and frustrations to each other. Hopefully our relationship will be stronger because of all of that. I plan on established a place where my children learn tolerance and respect for the differences in other and will embrace love and affection.

Marriage and the Vatican

The Second Vatican Council’s Constitution on the Church in the Modern World expresses “high esteem” for marriage and family life. Society and culture of today supports that as well but with an additional emphasis on sexual love and relationships. Fifty years ago I’m sure there was a population that did focus on the physical love but with the widespread media of today there is more accessibility to it today. The Second Vatican Council also speaks of the “lofty calling” of spouses and parents. This may give one the impression that one must be married to be a good parent, or a parent at all. There are many people today including single people and teenagers or couples out of wedlock who have children and they could be just as good parents as the next ones. Noted by Pope Benedict XVI, “Conjugal love is not a fleeting event, but the patient project of a lifetime… As such, it needs to be accompanied pastorally and supported in its problems and difficulties.” For example, marital love is a long time commitment, and not just moving from one partner to the next conveniently, which is what a lot of people do today. There’s much more cultural acceptance for divorce and multiple marriages that people believe that if a marriage doesn’t work out they can always try it again next time. Finally, the constitution states, “As spouses fulfill their conjugal and family obligations, they are penetrated with the spirit of Christ.” Some people these days are fine with not having children, even if they are with some one they love. There are also marriages that are purely platonic done out of companionship and perhaps tax reasons. All in all, there are still similarities as well as some changes that have taken place in the last fifty years.

Dating. What's the Point?

In my opinion, dating is not future practice for divorce. It is a way to develope a closer companionship with someone you feel diferently about than you do about your best friends. Dating is a way to test the waters with someone you have a slight or genuine interest in getting to know more romantically. Dating in modern day society has almost become a thing of the past sadly. The new thing these days is the hook-up culture where everyone just makes out and or sleeps with one another instead of taking the time and effort to develop a real relationship. Personally, I believe that the hook-up culture allows people to get to know each other really only physically well, and not emotionally or spiritually enough. Also, I can confidently say that I feel the hook-up culture is primarily based on external attractiveness. That's the initial draw to one another right? It's completely shallow and disappointing to know thats what lots of the outward passion that sparks initial hook-ups is based off of, physical appearance. Random hook-ups, one nights stands, booty calls, etc, are always leaving at least one or both of the parties involved left feeling lovesick/miserable/regretful. In reality, it's useless. Therefore it is actually the hook-up culture that is practicing for divorce because it doesn't allow us as people and as partners to develop the tools for retaining an emotionally stable relationship.